How to give your partner an erotic massage

How to prepare for a sensual massage

This manual is divided into three parts. In the first part, I will give you some tips on how to prepare before the massage, so that everything goes perfectly. Then, in the second part, there are several tips on how to do a body massage. In the third and final part, we will focus on the "happy ending". While this is obviously fun and pleasurable, I would like it to be more than just masturbation, and that is the purpose of this erotic massage tutorial.

The first section covers the most important points to remember before the massage:

Plan ahead: decide the day and time in advance and write it down so you don't forget it. This will prepare your bodies and minds in the days leading up to the massage. You can think about it, wait anxiously and fantasize about it. You may also have some ideas for your massage session.

Space: prepare the room ready for the massage. It is important that it is a quiet place, where there is no noise and you can relax. If this is too complicated at home, there is always the option to book a hotel room. This is a moment of intimacy that you are dealing with.

Temperature: ideally, the room should not be too hot or too cold. A moderate temperature helps the body to relax, opening the pores and allowing sexual energy to flow more easily. However, if it is too hot, it will be overwhelming and will make you sweat, and the sweat can be unpleasant. Remember that, in general, whoever is receiving the massage will feel more cold because they are not moving, especially women. When it is your turn to do the massage, check that the temperature is correct for your partner. Either way, it doesn't matter if you feel a little hot when doing the massage; this is normal if you are striving and doing it with passion.

Illumination: the illumination must be reduced, but not dark, so that you can focus on the different sensations and stimuli you receive during the massage. If there is a lot of light, you will not be able to block it by closing your eyes, making it difficult to focus on the other senses we want to stimulate. You can use candles, salt lamps or even cover a small lamp with a tissue (be careful not to burn). If you choose candles, make sure they are large enough to last the entire session, so that you are not left in the dark.

Which of our senses can we stimulate with an erotic massage?

- See: this is one of the senses that we should not encourage. Our vision is more stimulated daily; television, telephone, internet, advertising, etc. Let it rest for a while and it will increase the other senses.

- Touch: the skin is the largest organ in the body. It has many corners to explore and many fun ways to do it. I recommend stimulating the skin before applying the oil and starting the massage. You can use feathers, fingertips, a scarf or sarong made of soft fabric to stimulate your partner's skin. You can also experience the sensations of cold, using ice and heat, using hot stones or rubbing your hands vigorously before placing them on your partner's body. Using your language is another option. For the more daring, try to use tapas, or even lashes, in moderation, in order to keep the atmosphere relaxed.

- Taste: you can play with flavors, if you want, as long as you don't lose concentration during the massage. Try fruits, drinks or other food treats as a support option to try alternative stimuli.

- Smell: stimulating the smell activates the pituitary gland, an important hormonal regulator. To encourage this, you can use incense (I recommend using only good quality incense), essential oils, rosewood, copal resin, sage, myrrh or scented candles (preferably of natural origin).

- Hearing: music is the main trigger that stimulates our hearing. Whispers are also effective; whisper sensual words, trying not to verbalize too much so as not to distract your partner from the sensations he is feeling. The idea is to relax your partner's mind and improve your bodily sensations.

Where to do erotic massages as a couple

Tatami bed or futon: the best place to have an erotic massage is on a futon. The futons are comfortable for the person receiving the massage and are also quite firm, which facilitates the person's movement. However, since this tutorial is about basic erotic massage, I assume that you are probably using your own bed or a hotel bed. The only small disadvantage of mattresses is that if you are not used to using them for a massage, they can make it difficult to move and maintain correct posture.    

Cover the bed with a pair of large towels and / or a large towel to avoid stains, especially with drops of oil, if you are doing a hand-to-hand massage or if there is an ardent and passionate “happy ending”.

Oil: Use cold-pressed virgin vegetable oil. There is a wide variety of massage oils that are suitable for an erotic massage. Some of the natural oils available are: sweet almond, hazelnut, coconut (very good, although it is quite thick and needs to be heated before use), jojoba, argan, sesame and even olive oil (yes, olives), as long as it is extra virgin. I can tell you that one of the best massages I have ever had was with olive oil. You can put the oil in a bowl, but it is better to use it a little if it falls on the mattress, which is quite typical the first few times. A container with a lid is a better alternative. I do not recommend creams, because the skin absorbs them much faster. That said, if you decide to use a cream, at least make sure it is natural.

Music: I think that music is like the oil of an erotic massage, difficult to put aside. It must be smooth, calm and sensual. Music should be used to create an atmosphere, isolating you from the rest of the world and calming you down. Helps to reduce stress levels. Choose instrumental music preferably or vocal tracks with a soft and sensual voice. It is the music that probably sets the rhythm of the massage without you realizing it, so choose the one that best suits your taste, with the rhythm you desire.

Clothes: dress comfortably if you are doing the massage. If you are the one receiving the massage, it is better to be completely naked. Of course, it is also a good idea to do the nude massage. You can try the massage with and without clothes; you will see that the sensations are different with each option. If you find it difficult to be patient and finish the massage in a hurry, the fact that one of you is dressed can help with that.

Decoration: after having everything ready, you can decorate the room; with petals, chocolates on the bed, a beautiful message or something you know will make your partner happy.

Love: it is important that love is present in everything you do. Giving an erotic massage with love means that the person giving the massage is attentive to the feelings of the person who is receiving it. In turn, the recipient will adopt an attitude of surrender and compassion, if at any time the masseuse does something unexpected. Be understanding when you are the one receiving the massage, take note and learn from any awkward beginner moves your partner might make.

Now that you have everything ready, we will continue with the second part of the manual, where we focus on erotic massage.

Mini-tutorial How to give your partner an erotic massage (Part II)

How to give your partner an erotic massage. In the first part of this mini-tutorial, we learned how to prepare all the most important things before the massage; in this second part, we will focus on giving advice on the massage itself.

Before applying any oil to your partner's body, you must stimulate the skin - one of the largest organs in the body - as discussed earlier. Start with slow, smooth movements, using caresses as if they are persistent whispers on the skin. It is very important to make slow movements so that your partner has time to taste each part of the body and the different sensations he experiences. Do not hurry; take time to explore every corner of your partner's body. In the previous part of this tutorial, I exposed a series of alternatives on how to stimulate the skin.

How to prepare the skin before a tantric massage

Oil: the oil should preferably be tempered or even slightly hot (never burning hot). Put a small amount of oil on your hands and apply to your partner's skin. Therefore, make sure that you do not burn or heat with your hands if it is very cold. Spread slowly and carefully, this is just the beginning.

Order: I recommend starting with the feet and massaging towards the head, as this is good for promoting blood circulation; although starting with the head can also help to avoid touching the genitals at the beginning of the massage. Practicing in both directions is another good way to repeat the sensual massage.

Massage the whole body: slowly but surely. Savor each movement, both the massage and the massage. You can combine long sweeping movements that cover the entire body with movements focused on each of the different parts of the body.

Intensity and rhythm: play with the intensity and rhythm of the massage. This is a very important factor, which will take massage to another level, although it requires some practice and experience.

Use what you know: if you already know some tantric massage techniques, don't back down. You can incorporate any style of massage you are comfortable with and from there ...

Improvise: If you already have experience in massaging or where you are just starting out, improvisation is vital. It may be the first time you have used a guide like this, but with practice, you will see that it is not good to do the same every time or in the same way. You must reinvent massage every time.

Listen to your body: listen to your breath and your heartbeat and observe your own level of arousal. If you become fully aware of yourself, it will be easier to enjoy every movement while doing the massage, without being carried away by the usual desire for quick penetration.

Listen to your partner's body: when you are fully aware of your own body, you can observe your partner's body in more detail. Observe breathing, skin and the degree of relaxation. Any reaction to touching your hands or your body in theirs is a sign that you are on the right path. In doing so, you can progressively increase arousal in a number of ways when you feel you are both ready. Adopt a loving and sensual attitude.

Flow: don't stop to analyze if your technique is correct or not. The important thing is to make each movement flow to the next, and with practice you will improve. Let yourself go, be patient and aware of your feelings of mutual excitement. There is no need to hold on; so at any time, if you hesitate to give your passion freedom, go ahead! There will be many more opportunities to play.

Stimulating undiscovered erogenous zones: After massaging your entire body, start by stimulating erogenous zones that you would not normally find erotic. Start gently and gradually increase the intensity. Some of these unknown erotic areas are: the ankles, the back of the knees, the front of the knees, the armpits, in the curve of the elbows, the wrists, the hands (palms and fingers), behind the ears, the earlobes, the lips and other areas that you may notice your partner likes. It is important to keep in mind that the things you like may not be pleasant for your partner. Likewise, even if you don't like something, respect the fact that it can be something that drives your partner to drive with desire. Finally, remember that something that works well in one day may not necessarily become the norm; on a different day, it may not have the same effect.